Jeff Fosters says, boldly
“I teach one thing and one thing only: a deep and fearless acceptance of whatever comes your way.
Thank God for that! The more I get it, the more I realize he’s not the only one. Eckhart Tolle is just as bold in The Power of Now. Abraham (through Esther Hicks) speak of releasing resistance and going with the flow, and I think the Vortex they speak of is just this place where deep acceptance allows us to connect with all that we truly are. Resistance and fear only block our well-being, joy and love.
Oriah Mountain Dreamer asks (in The Dance)
“What if there is no need to change, no need to try to transform yourself into someone who is more compassionate, more present, more loving or wise?”
“What if the essence of who you are and always have been is enough?”
These are radical statements and ideas. And yet, I am sure they are worth bending our minds around and opening our hearts to. Assuming Inner Peace sounds good to you. It does to me!
I am done fighting. I am done resisting. Yes, I have declared myself, removed myself from conflict. And yet, I do get seduced by a bit of drama still, but I know I can choose to turn myself around and walk away. Or I can choose to stand in the midst and observe and offer my peace and love. Because I now know peace. I’ve tasted it. I know acceptance is the key. And I want more.
And I want you to try it, or at least be tempted. Aren’t you curious? Or at least tired? Struggle, resistance, conflict, and suffering are exhausting. Are you ready to try a different way?
Dr. Claire Weekes, an Australian GP, found a physical and practical form of accepting and used it to help many, many people heal their anxiety. In her books, she describes a physical and deliberate relaxing of the tension that is often based in our stomach area as the basis for accepting physical symptoms of anxiety and panic. It is not for the purpose of changing the symptoms, but to stop the fear of what is happening and stop the cycle of fear and panic. She talks of not running or hiding from what we are feeling or experiencing.
“Acceptance is a definitive physiological process that eventually soothes.”
The beauty of all of this is that it only takes a change of perception, a change in your heart and your attitude that will lead to a feeling of physical and emotional ease. You can stop needing anyone or anything else to be different. (That’s exhausting, too, isn’t it?)
As Jeff Foster says
“Circumstances can never really cause our suffering; it is always in our response to circumstances that we suffer.”
“Our suffering is rooted in our unwillingness to feel what we feel, to experience what we are experiencing right now.”
We create our own suffering when we resist, avoid and fight. Think of the most simple or the most horrific situation—you can always find those who will tell you how it was a blessing in disguise or who have gone on to be settled and happy, despite this situation, and you can also find those who are still reliving the moments, blaming and railing against someone or something, and protesting the unfairness or the despair. What is the difference if they were both there, or both in similar circumstances?
I said simple, not easy. Simple means not complicated. As Wayne Dyer says, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.” Scientists now understand how our observing changes whatever we observe.
So, are you willing to see everything differently?
A Course in Miracles talks about God’s plan. When we accept, it is like saying
“Only God’s plan for salvation will work.”
And then we understand that
“Holding grievances is an attack on God’s plan for salvation.”
It reads like acceptance. Everything is God’s plan. When we try to force or resist, we are going against the plan. Grievances are our complaints, our blame, our denial, and our suffering. Salvation is our Peace and joy.
A few days ago, soon after doing these lessons, I was out for a walk, feeling good, even though I’m weighing more than I would like, if I am honest, and I got it. It all clicked. The idea of being in the now moment, of accepting, and of God’s plan. I nearly cried out, “This is it. Now is God’s plan. This moment, right now, this is God’s plan.” It just made so much sense. All the way through. And I thought, why on earth would I fight it? At that moment, the thought of complaining about anything was just ridiculous. Remembering this moment will help me in others!
We choose how we respond to any moment or person or comment or event.
So, are you ready to start practicing?
I took a break from writing this blog to go for a walk, knowing I could be called back at any time. Walkie-talkie in hand, I set off, in good spirits, enjoying the sunshine and thinking about acceptance. I thought about how we can start with little things, regular moments, and gradually gain experience and confidence. I thought of some of my own experiences, where I have been conscious of the choices, and then I got the call. “Come back.” I was at the furthest point. I was not planning to run. And yet, I was needed. And I was in full acceptance. So I ran as much as I could. I smiled at the thought of a perfect practice situation to tell you about. All is well. This is acceptance. I could have grumbled, complained, or wished for a different scenario, but this time, from that easy space of acceptance, I sprang into action and enjoyed the unexpected blessing of a motivation to run.
Are you ready to try?
Well, why not? You’re still here. You’ve read this far. Something must be intriguing you. (Or you are my friend or my mom, and I thank you!)
So, pause. Has all this stirred up anything? If so, just notice it. Are you reacting? Have you Googled or Kindled any of the people or books I have mentioned? Don’t forget YouTube. Are you annoyed? Can any and all of those reactions just be ok? Did you notice that you’ve let go of what happened earlier or the deadline that is in your future? They still exist, but in the moment, they don’t need your attention, and you are ok. This is a taste of acceptance. Sit with it. See how long it lasts.
So, you’ve had a taste. I’ve shared a lot of sources, like recipes, because, like most things, there is more than one way. Jeff Foster didn’t gel with me the first time through, but the second time was like coming home. Now I visit when I like, and always feel welcome. Jump in where you are. Have a taste. And enjoy the peace.
Namaste, my friend.
Deepest Acceptance by Jeff Foster
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
More Help for your Nerves and other books by Dr. Claire Weekes
The Dance by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
A Course in Miracles